size 28/30 people and modcloth !

so as we all know, modcloth’s size 4X is supposed to be a 28/30 now, but pretty much everything is actually super tiny and disappointing.  can you reblog this post with items you’ve purchased that actually fit you? and maybe links to stuff that has completely NOT fit. that way if we are still pathetically grateful enough to give them money, we will know which items actually fit people our size so we don’t waste our time.

i’m a 28/30 gas giant (formerly known as ‘apple’) with a small bust (B cup) and big hips.

things that have actually fit me:

coffee shop cutie dress in 4X. this actually fits me more like an empire waist, but it fits well and isn’t constricting at all. if anything, i’d say it’s a little large.

literary luncheon dress in 4X. this one is pushing it because i have a large belly (the banded waist is a little tight and the pleats.. unpleat a little) but it looks cute and not weird. probably more of a 28 than a 30.

autumn arrival dress in 4X (sold out, but shows up on ebay). this fits well and is stretchy and comfortable. the orange is a little more red in person.

big disappointments (please just list these rather than posting pictures !):

- that’s all folksy dress in 4X (no stretch, i would say the 4X is like.. a 22)

please feel free to add to the stuff that fit and the stuff to just like, not bother with ! xoxo, gossip fat person.

exploiting my readership for personal use ! is there something like teggings that fits really fat people? like, 28/30 with 66” hips. i want opaque leggings that look tights-y (so like…not the matte cotton kind) but don’t have the weird translucent area on the upper thigh, because i want them to wear with short dresses.

we love colors footless tights don’t fit the bill. teggings fit me when i was a 26 but not anymore. helpppp.

largeandlovely:

what the hell target
not only have you mysteriously gotten rid of your plus size line
not only do you not carry any of your bikinis in size XXL
you also have this shitty shirt on sale
ugh

though i’ve heard target brought their plus size line back (crappier than ever !), this is such an irresponsible, gross bummer. 

largeandlovely:

what the hell target

not only have you mysteriously gotten rid of your plus size line

not only do you not carry any of your bikinis in size XXL

you also have this shitty shirt on sale

ugh

though i’ve heard target brought their plus size line back (crappier than ever !), this is such an irresponsible, gross bummer. 

wtfplus’ cool fat look for the day: a pleated skirt that is so small on you it no longer looks pleated and the waist just looks weird and bunchy. at least, i HOPE i look cool.

this is wholly unrelated to plus size clothing, good or bad*, but i just made this pearl couscous “macaroni” and cheese and it was like, the best thing i’ve ever eaten and took *less time than kraft macaroni and cheese*.  i doubled the recipe, and it was under $5 for enough food for two big meals for two people who eat a lot.  it’s super easy to modify- think about it like a macaroni and cheese base; add peas, ham, hot dogs, taco meat, peppers and onions, hot sauce, etc.

alsooooo if you don’t/can’t eat dairy, it would probably be good with any kind of milk substitute (soy or almond milk or creamer, tofu cream cheese, tofu sour cream, coconut milk, etc.) and some nutritional yeast.  if you forgo any kind of milk substitute, it’s more like a risotto than mac and cheese (and also is just.. the regular preparation of pearl couscous but whatever).

p.s. you can probably find israeli couscous for $$ in the ‘organic’ section with the ‘near east’ products, or for $ in the ‘kosher’ section at a regular grocery store.

p.p.s. i’d normally never post this here but i am like, blown away by how quick, cheap, easy, and GOOD this was.

* it was kind of related to plus size clothing because i wear plus size clothing and eat like ‘baby’s first birthday’ so i got a decent amount on my plus size clothing.

pkslider:

petition to change clothing sizes to 

XS - Extra Small Mario
S - Small Mario
M - Mario
L - Luigi
XL - Extra Luigi

of course no one thinks to make anything in donkey kong or bowser for us plus size people. HMPF.

Plus size women INVEST in proper shapewear.

fortysixjay:

athickgirlscloset:

Shapewear is sooooo important for plus size women, well women in general. I personally always have on some sort of shapewear regardless if I’m in jeans or a dress. It’s not about “hiding fat” or fat shaming ( I hate when women say that) Shapewear is used to create clean lines. There is nothing more unattractive than seeing a woman in a dress or a nice outfit, and she doesn’t have on shapewear. Lumpy silhouettes is never okay no matter what size you are.

Moral of the story…INVEST IN SHAPEWEAR!

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a few people have linked me to this, and i agree with fortysixjay’s succinct gif response.

i’m here to tell you that lumpy silhouettes are not only okay, but awesome. so are non-lumpy silhouettes. and it is okay to wear shapwear and also okay to not wear shapewear. however you look, you look cool, and i have nothing but pure fucking contempt for anyone who tries to make you feel otherwise. you do not need to pay money and wear garments designed to force your body into a particular shape because there is no ‘right’ shape- if you want to wear it, do it because you want to, not because people like this make you think you need to.

don’t let people who don’t respect themselves tell you how to be respectable. please do not let people like this make you a screen to project their toxic bullshit onto.

I just wonder why I need bigger polka dots over the skinnier version? 
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editor’s note: giant polka dots are slimming !!! i always wonder about really big features added to plus size clothing. sometimes i get pants that are just regular work pants but for some reason have like… warped tour jnco pockets. maybe they think all of our stuff is bigger because we’re fatter and we want to maintain proportions?  maybe they think we wear those giant novelty sunglasses and use zack morris cellphones.fun/horrible fact (speaking of this concept and, um, pockets), i once had a gynecologist try to use the large speculum for people who have given birth vaginally (something i have not done) on me because she thought fatter people had fatter vaginas. like, an earth doctor who went to human medical school and *graduated* based on the standards set by other earth humans who have gone to medical school. kind of a weird segue there but now i dub these ‘large speculum polka dots’.

I just wonder why I need bigger polka dots over the skinnier version? 

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editor’s note: giant polka dots are slimming !!! i always wonder about really big features added to plus size clothing. sometimes i get pants that are just regular work pants but for some reason have like… warped tour jnco pockets. maybe they think all of our stuff is bigger because we’re fatter and we want to maintain proportions?  maybe they think we wear those giant novelty sunglasses and use zack morris cellphones.

fun/horrible fact (speaking of this concept and, um, pockets), i once had a gynecologist try to use the large speculum for people who have given birth vaginally (something i have not done) on me because she thought fatter people had fatter vaginas. like, an earth doctor who went to human medical school and *graduated* based on the standards set by other earth humans who have gone to medical school. kind of a weird segue there but now i dub these ‘large speculum polka dots’.

the president of the world just announced that plus size people will have as many clothing options for reasonable prices as non-plus size people ! 

wtfplus:

the completed plus size clothing bingo card.

wtfplus:

the completed plus size clothing bingo card.

while i’m on a roll the past few days posting off topic stuff, i want to give a shoutout to cafe lift in philly- not ONLY did i see the obnoxious guy from ‘top chef 11’ who kept calling himself philly’s (physically) hottest chef and then got kicked off immediately because of his hubris eating brunch, but the hostess leaned over to me as we were being seated and said, ‘hey, we have some more comfortable chairs if you want !’  their normal chairs are little flimsy metal chairs with arms, and she brought me a sturdier red chair with no arms.  i didn’t even have to ask or feel anxious and awkwardly perch on it and have a bad time- she just asked me discreetly and didn’t make a big deal about it. A++ good fat person dining experience.

also, they have cannoli french toast.

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Challah bread dredged in a cinnamon vanilla custard, baked, then finished with bananas, chipped chocolate, pistachios and homemade ricotta cannoli filling.

p.s. full disclosure, they served my boyfriend a really bad ‘cappuccino’ that was like a glass of milk with a shot of espresso dumped in, and his stuffed crepe had raw bacon in it, and he was totally bummed, but he’s not fat and i’m fat and it was a real good time for me !

thefatword asked: I am writing an article trying to address both sides of the body acceptance issue without requiring any direct confrontation between those involved. My goal is to shape an academic discussion free of logical fallacies. What questions do you want to ask those who oppose the body positivity movement?

i don’t really have a good polite answer for this? like there’s no ‘other side’ to thinking that people should accept their bodies besides being a fucking asshole.  if you’re writing about the toxic social aspects and deep-seated insecurities and bad personalities that lead to people being such fucking assholes and forcing their issues onto other peoples’ bodies, that could maybe be interesting, but i really truly don’t see the point in pretending that ‘(this type of person) shouldn’t accept their body’ is a valid or rational opinion.

grrlsloth asked: hi wtf! you posted about sharon rooney a little while ago & now i am wondering whether you have started watching MY MAD FAT DIARY? i just finished the first season and i am floored. it is the first time i've seen myself reflected on tv. you are smart and funny so i'd love to here your thoughts about the show. thanks for everything!

hey ! i actually did start watching it the other day and i ended up stopping after 4 episodes and reading the wiki. not that i didn’t like it a lot ! i am just exactly the age of the characters so there was so many tiny details that didn’t ring true for me (fat girl in 1996 wearing LEGGINGS and a MINI SKIRT?! people being IMPRESSED BY THE BEASTIE BOYS in 1996?!) that i found myself focusing on those instead of the story ! i’m REALLY BAD at watching tv though. i can’t sit still and pay attention for very long unless it’s a boring war documentary or ‘the simpsons’ seasons 3-9 and i end up farting out and reading the wiki for like, every tv show.  

in general i love the idea of the show because it’s something we’ve NEVER SEEN EVER and it warms my heart to think of so many fat people and mentally ill people having representation that isn’t exploitative (though i really do tire of the ‘much CRAZIER friends back at ye olde mental institution’ trope), even though my experience as a fat mentally ill teen in the 90s was really fundamentally different (i didn’t get my low self-esteem until my early 20s even though i’ve been a 26/28 since i was like… 12, and my experience with anxiety was very different from rae’s experience with mental illness).  

i’m also happy that she is shown interacting with multiple love interests in varying states of acceptance about their own bodies and her body, and family and friends who have their own body issues and baggage, but is still represented very much as someone who is worthy of love and affection from romantic interests, friends, and family. 

p.s. one thing that did confuse me, though, was that… i thought finn was just supposed to be a regular looking guy in rae’s ‘league’ and she just perceived him as a dreamboat that was too hot for her because she had low self-esteem, but… i think he’s actually supposed to be a dreamboat? but he looks like every single teenage boy on earth to me.

p.p.s. excellent soundtrack, both in its choice of good music and its choice of bad music. for those of you too young to remember, this is really what the 90s sounded like. for every stone roses song you had to hear two fun lovin criminals songs or a terrible song by the prodigy.

why i hate shopping for plus size clothes
Clothing designers:listen fatty, you clearly don't give a shit about yourself so why not wear this burlap sack (available in leopard print) with the word 'diva' across the front in glitter. that's good enough for you, fatty. right? oh and that sack is like $40 more than regular clothes bc clearly your fat ass has money bc you eat so much. ps we hate you
illness update !

i’ve gotten a bunch of very cool and concerned messages about being sick ! like, 91 of them to be precise ! i’m okay ! i’ll be back soon ! i have been dealing with pretty serious anxiety and depression since i was about 6 years old, and i’m currently taking a medication that works faster for anxiety than depression- meaning, i have JUST the depression right now, without the anxiety. meaning the ‘oh no you have to go to work or you’ll get fired, you HAVE to get up and go pee or you’ll get a UTI, you have to eat food or you’ll starve to death, you have to take a shower or you will get a crust of dirt on you and mrs. piggle wiggle will plant radishes in it !’ feelings are gone, leaving me… unable to do anything. meaning that i get mentally overwhelmed by the pain of life and end up spending like 20 hours a day in bed feeling like the simplest tasks (feeding myself, drinking water, going to the bathroom, bathing, answering e-mails, answering my phone, blog postin’, leaving the house) would take an amount of energy i couldn’t even fathom and CERTAINLY don’t have.

as my dose has increased to the therapeutic amount now, i should be fine soon- the medication i’m on is, thankfully, the magic medication for me. i’ve taken it before, but had to go off it because there was no generic (there’s a generic now !) and it was prohibitively expensive, which led to my backslide into this mess. it’s the first one i’ve taken in my life that actually makes me able to lead a somewhat ‘normal’ life, and i’ve tried dozens of medications since 1990 or so. it also gives me enough clarity that talk therapy is actually beneficial to me, which is also a new feeling- all my life, my head was so clouded by anxiety that therapy was just a confusing, awkward mess.

anyway, i finally got up to my full dose last week, and i’m already feeling better and more capable and able to do things. i’m on intermittent FMLA at work, and i’m out of paid time, soooo this has been a scary month, with things like $38 paychecks. my partner is helping me out, but as a former poor kid, i feel bummed about that; we’re saving up to move and my lack of income means we… aren’t saving up to move. i’m hoping to be able to return to work nearly full time next week, though. fingers crossed ! 

anyway, i love you nerds, thank you for your supportive messages. i know this is supposed to be a funny blog so i always feel awkward posting serious/personal stuff, but whatever. SUE ME ! don’t sue me i can’t afford legal fees.

p.s. i laid around so much this past month that my cats got bored with laying around. that’s right- i laid around more than a fucking cat !  that’s ALL they do besides knock stuff off of surfaces, get fur everywhere, and parkour off of my body as they tear around the house at random intervals.

p.p.s. don’t worry, i’m not asking you guys for money ! i think i’ll be okay ! but if all 8500 of you paypal 3 cents to coolthoughts@nervous.org, i’ll be able to buy a pair of frye ankle boots for ‘self care’. just saying.