hey guys ! 2014 has been the worst weirdest year (thankfully now it’s just ‘weird’ and not ‘worst’) ! i haven’t been able to pay as much attention to this blog as usual, and probably won’t until august due to ~~~life changes~~~, so if you submitted stuff, hold tight, i *will* get around to posting it !

i’m still blogging on my personal blog and my questions blog because they take less time and i don’t have to be funny or smart. xoxo.

cherryseltzer:

coolthoughts:

In sunlight (not blue !)

okay, this is where i give up. the ends will never be perfect, but it’s dark gray finally.

in case you guys were wondering how my gray hair turned out. two bleachings, two tonings, gallons of violet shampoo (clairol shimmer lights, jhermack silver, joico violet conditioner), and three tubes of pravana silver dye later.also i feel weird reblogging to my fashion blog from my personal blog FROM my defunct old personal blog but whatever.

cherryseltzer:

coolthoughts:

In sunlight (not blue !)

okay, this is where i give up. the ends will never be perfect, but it’s dark gray finally.

in case you guys were wondering how my gray hair turned out. two bleachings, two tonings, gallons of violet shampoo (clairol shimmer lights, jhermack silver, joico violet conditioner), and three tubes of pravana silver dye later.

also i feel weird reblogging to my fashion blog from my personal blog FROM my defunct old personal blog but whatever.

lizscheiner said: Do you know of any places that sell super wide calf boots? Even ones from department stores are too tight for me and I'm hesitant to order online from places I've never bought from before.

torrid’s wide calf stretchy boots usually fit me ! and simply be apparently has some ! there’s also a site whose name i can’t remember, and i’m going to publish this so someone reblogs it and answers. :D

fats:

rickoconnells:

"What do u mean ur fat and you don’t wanna dress rockabilly?? You must be mistaken" ~ every speciality fat clothing store

things I truly hate.

taylormparsons said: Hi! I feel bad for asking this because I'm not entirely sure where I read it originally but was it you who blogged that plus size clothing store master lis? I really want to check it out :)

yes, you can find ye olde master list right here.

half wtf/half useful baby

wtfplus:

so i wanted to share this link for a few reasons. basically, this company, wingz fashion, makes… sleeves.  sleeves that you can wear independent of whatever else you’re wearing. in general, i really like this product idea- i know a lot of people who like to keep covered for comfort (and for religious reasons), people who have to cover their tattoos in professional settings, people who aren’t ‘there’ yet with liking their arms, etc.

imagehowever, two of the things on the list are, and i quote, “fat arms” and “saggy bingo wings.” like… gross? i can’t put my finger on what rubs me the wrong way about it, but i guess perpetuating the idea that fat arms or ‘saggy bingo wings’ (haaaaaaate that phrase) are something to be ashamed of and should be literally listed alongside ‘disfigurement.’ they do list ‘skinny arms’ as well and i’m sure some people are self-conscious about that, but it feels like more of a CYA move on their part.

these come in sizes 4-26 US, and they may be worth checking out if you want them, but i can’t help but feel bummed about seeing the words ‘fat arms’ listed. honestly, though, i might buy the pair pictured above because i have a dress that shoes too much armpit skin for work. whatever, feelings are complicated.

p.s. lest you think i’m all blog and no e-mail, i did send them an e-mail telling them my reaction as a potential customer and suggesting some non-shamey alternatives !!

p.p.s. oh lawd, i’m not opposed to calling fat arms ‘fat arms,’ don’t you nerds know me at all? i just feel skeeved by them listing ‘fat arms’ along with legitimate reasons to cover up, rather than something like ‘insecurity about your arms’

okay, i’m glad i wrote- the team at wingz got back to me when i wrote them and were super receptive to the feedback (it was actually copy they were already considering editing). they were also kind and candid enough to share with me the history of the company’s founder- she created the product to deal with a medical condition of her own, and she designs plus size clothing at fatphrocks.com (which specializes in TALL plus size dresses). she also employs other plus size bloggers/writers, like sarah from gorgeouslyfullfat.com. so, the wording on the site wasn’t coming from one of those ‘HIDE YOUR DISGUSTING FAT BODY !’ places but an ‘i’ve been there and want to help you’ place. i’ve actually had a lot of people with lipedema write to me asking for help with clothing recommendations, and i know that can be a huge challenge.

full disclosure- they did offer to send me a pair of wingz to review for you guys, but i decided to write this before that, and you guys know i’d never say anything i didn’t mean, especially to get free junk. i just don’t want my first post to discourage people from checking out and supporting other plus size people because of my kneejerk reaction !

nametags said: I'm still in the process of getting my issue resolved, but I just wanted to say/warn other ladies out there that Lane Bryant's customer service for online orders is really poor. They're unwilling to correct their mistake until they're able to charge you for the replacement items, even if they acknowledge that the issue was on their side.

hey, thanks for letting me know ! i’ve had a lot of issues with lane bryant online to the point where i just kind of give up with them (which sucks because they have the only bras/underwear that kinda fit me). for years and years their site just DIDN’T TAKE DEBIT CARDS !!! and then they started to and charged me twice once when i bought a dress to wear to a work function and it took forever to get it resolved.

ahhh someone sent me a message looking for gold blouses !

send me a message with your e-mail address, i just stayed at work an hour late looking for stuff for you :D

roxy

OOTD, crocs/dirty hair/wrinkled dress edition

cherryseltzer:

maybe my hair IS green like my passive aggressive coworker said !

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dress: eShakti heart print cotton dress, custom sizing (i added short puffed sleeves, a wide scoop neck, and made it knee length)
leggings: redress regular length teggings, one size, in gray
ring of leg hair around my ankles: thrifted
shoes: crocs from the crypt

i cannot recommend teggings enough. they are so comfortable and fit so well. i feel like i’m wearing yoga pants or something ! they don’t pinch or roll or anything at all on me, and the cuffs would probably stretch way bigger. i’m 5’9” so the ‘regular length’ is almost cropped on me, but i’m also a Big American so that may also shorten them. for reference, my waist is 61” and my hips are 66” and they fit with room to spare without becoming opaque. love them.

still sharing my OOTDs with you guys so you can see how stuff fits on a wrinkly lazy lady.

francesbabyhouseman:

we can put a man on the moon but you can’t make clothes in a size larger than L 

oh no ! a stain !

okay, you guys have been very helpful about stuff like this in the past. i have a really, that is my favorite dress- just like, in fit and comfort and cuteness. 

apparentlyyyy while at indian buffet awhile back, i dropped a blorp of food in my lap and didn’t notice, and the dress went through the washer AND dryer. tide pen didn’t help. it’s just a blorp of brown on the skirt on my left lower belly area on the skirt. the dress is almost white, so it’s super obvious, but it isn’t white enough to spot treat with bleach. the fabric is like, the poly-est ester of all time.

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so, two questions:
1) does anyone have any tried and true methods of getting an old set stain out of offwhite polyester?
2) would it be weird if i bought a giraffe brooch and just pinned it to the skirt? the spot is between my knee and bellybutton on the left side of the dress skirt.  something like this:

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or

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what do you think?

p.s. drycleaner said there was nothing they could do ! i also have tried soaking it in regular tide and spot treating it with dawn, but as i mentioned i already put it through the dryer before i realized :(

half wtf/half useful baby

so i wanted to share this link for a few reasons. basically, this company, wingz fashion, makes… sleeves.  sleeves that you can wear independent of whatever else you’re wearing. in general, i really like this product idea- i know a lot of people who like to keep covered for comfort (and for religious reasons), people who have to cover their tattoos in professional settings, people who aren’t ‘there’ yet with liking their arms, etc.

imagehowever, two of the things on the list are, and i quote, “fat arms” and “saggy bingo wings.” like… gross? i can’t put my finger on what rubs me the wrong way about it, but i guess perpetuating the idea that fat arms or ‘saggy bingo wings’ (haaaaaaate that phrase) are something to be ashamed of and should be literally listed alongside ‘disfigurement.’ they do list ‘skinny arms’ as well and i’m sure some people are self-conscious about that, but it feels like more of a CYA move on their part.

these come in sizes 4-26 US, and they may be worth checking out if you want them, but i can’t help but feel bummed about seeing the words ‘fat arms’ listed. honestly, though, i might buy the pair pictured above because i have a dress that shoes too much armpit skin for work. whatever, feelings are complicated.

p.s. lest you think i’m all blog and no e-mail, i did send them an e-mail telling them my reaction as a potential customer and suggesting some non-shamey alternatives !!

p.p.s. oh lawd, i’m not opposed to calling fat arms ‘fat arms,’ don’t you nerds know me at all? i just feel skeeved by them listing ‘fat arms’ along with legitimate reasons to cover up, rather than something like ‘insecurity about your arms’

ootd dirty mirror again

cherryseltzer:

okay, using the mirror at work is not sustainable. it’s filthy and it reflects weird yellow fluorescent light so i have to quick focus the camera on the wall and then trick it by pointing it at the mirror really fast and snapping, so i can’t get anything in focus !  butttt i get home from work at 6:30 and my partner gets home at 8:30 and there’s no way i’m wearing like… a bra or shoes in my own home.

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sigh

dress: pink clove tartan skater dress, UK size 30/32 it had a hilariously useless belt.
leggings: redress regular length teggings, one size
shoes: some project runway guy for payless. they’re like fake horse hair and have a big poof on the back? i just wear them at work when i wore rain shoes in.
chipped nail polish: milani neon in teal

i tried to hold out the skirt to show you how much more room their is in the hips- they are sold out of this print but they have other skater dresses that i highly recommend. super comfortable and i really like the sleeve length.

uch i’m a turd.

cherryseltzer:

irenelove83:

onlyblackgirl:

muneca-africana:

walkingthenarrowway:

underwritteninfluence:

dapenguinninja:

earthshaker1217:

dapenguinninja:

blknapoleon:

headturnmeon:

queensophistiratchet:

Lol. Welp.

😩😩😩😩😩😩😩

But she cute irl jus big

that’s sounds like a personal problem for some. She know who she is and doesn’t let that hold her back. She got a man. Don’t be using her as some standard for your ego

^^^^Right!
Look at Gabourey at her job.
Look at Gabourey at an awards while folks sit at home.

Look at Gabourey being unbothered


My dude over here gets it

All these comments I approve. It’s a personal issue you must solve. Gabby is doing the damn thing.

SHE IS SO PERFECT, THIS OP IS TRASH. FAT SHAMING AIN’T CUTE.

It’s so silly when people think women who don’t fit into society’s conventions aren’t deserving of love, and see it as a diss when these women find love and they don’t. Salty as hell.

and stop calling her “Precious” that is a character not who she is, her name is Gabourey Sidibe. Use it.

Thank you

it’s so weird when cool, good looking, talented people have significant others, but spiteful insecure internet dorks don’t. right? i mean, wouldn’t you rather date a spiteful insecure internet loser than a beautiful famous hilarious woman????

cherryseltzer:

irenelove83:

onlyblackgirl:

muneca-africana:

walkingthenarrowway:

underwritteninfluence:

dapenguinninja:

earthshaker1217:

dapenguinninja:

blknapoleon:

headturnmeon:

queensophistiratchet:

Lol. Welp.

😩😩😩😩😩😩😩

But she cute irl jus big

that’s sounds like a personal problem for some. She know who she is and doesn’t let that hold her back. She got a man. Don’t be using her as some standard for your ego

^^^^Right!

Look at Gabourey at her job.

Look at Gabourey at an awards while folks sit at home.

beaucoupshade:  cultural00shrapnel:  #BYE HATERS LOL  me  On the way to make money!

Look at Gabourey being unbothered

My dude over here gets it

All these comments I approve. It’s a personal issue you must solve. Gabby is doing the damn thing.

SHE IS SO PERFECT, THIS OP IS TRASH. FAT SHAMING AIN’T CUTE.

It’s so silly when people think women who don’t fit into society’s conventions aren’t deserving of love, and see it as a diss when these women find love and they don’t. Salty as hell.

and stop calling her “Precious” that is a character not who she is, her name is Gabourey Sidibe. Use it.

Thank you

it’s so weird when cool, good looking, talented people have significant others, but spiteful insecure internet dorks don’t. right? i mean, wouldn’t you rather date a spiteful insecure internet loser than a beautiful famous hilarious woman????

Anonymous said: What should I do if I'm 23 and I've never had a boyfriend or been kissed or anything. I think it's because of my weight. :/

askroxyanything:

do all of the stuff you like to do and go all of the places you like to go and hang out with your friends and eat a bunch of cool food and wear whatever you want and just like, be cool.  sex and dating are not the most important thing in the world, and there are lots of people who don’t experience it much in their lives.

if it’s something you really want to do, introduce yourself to people who look interesting or cool while you’re doing the stuff you like to do, or make a dating site profile, put all your cards on the table, and remember that you deserve to have your pick of whoever you’d like to date. don’t ever feel grateful for a dude’s attention or like you owe him anything because he likes you, because you are a worthwhile human. don’t ever settle, because dudes are a dime a dozen.

there are people who are into all kinds of body shapes, sizes, and weights. some men are ashamed to be attracted to fat people because of how intense fatphobia is in many cultures, but that isn’t your problem at all- nothing about you needs to change. if you do find someone to date and they seem uncomfortable with your weight or don’t seem proud to be with you or try to keep you a secret, tell them to get lost.

it’s worth waiting for a good experience rather than having shitty experiences just to experience SOMETHING.  trust me, i’m old and i’ve dated a lot and had a lot of sex and i’ve also been single a lot.

i am reposting this to this blog because i get this same question a lot directed to this blog… like, once a day, and i usually answer privately. this is a question from someone who specifically wants to date men, but it applies to basically every dating scenario.